Making some New Year resolutions together can be a good start for the year ahead.
Whether you want to do it to keep things interesting or just to have a better bond with your partner, making resolutions is as easy as you want it to be. Think about the things you two like to do or would like to do, and stick to that. If you’re struggling, here are a few ideas to get you started:
If you’ve fallen in a rut, start playing together. Simple games like hide and seek, Monopoly or hosting couples-game-nights will shake things up (in a good way) again. In fact a study published on the American Psychological Association found that couples who take part in arousing and fun activities together are happier than others. Let’s face it: being bored in a relationship is a bummer. Rather go have some fun.
2. Have sex
Sex is an important aspect in a relationship. With age come responsibilities, maybe some kids and a lot of bills – and most couples forget to have sex in the midst of the rush. Make some time for each other and do the deed. If you can’t do it every day, have no fear, science has found couples who have sex once a week are happier in any case. So try to stick to that or more if you can. Bonus.
3. Leave technology outside of the bedroom
A recent study has found technology can damage your relationship. We all know this to be true, because we spend a lot of time flipping through Facebook, Twitter and what not. Make a resolution this year to keep your technology down-time outside of the bedroom. Even if you go on a date-night be sure to pack your phone away for a while and enjoy the moment for a change without posting it on Facebook straight away.
4. Be grateful
After a couple of years of dating, couples can start taking their partner for granted. We don’t appreciate all the things as much as we should. Make a resolution to refrain from this and appreciate the little things. If he makes you a cup of tea for instance, say thank you and see your partner light up with joy. It’s always nice to feel appreciated.
Licensed marriage and family therapist, Tina B. Tessina says a good, honest “catch-up” with your partner is a good way to keep in touch and stay in love for that matter. This year make a resolution with your partner and promise each other more down time just for talking. If something bothers you – speak up. If you just want to talk about your hopes and dreams – go on and do it. Communication is an important aspect in a relationship after all.