According to research, 30-60% of marriages deal with an affair, many of which end in divorce, Photo: Mambaonline
Infidelity is one of the most devastating things that can happen in a relationship or marriage, most marriages deal with an affair.
According to research, 30-60% of marriages deal with an affair, many of which end in divorce, Photo: Mambaonline
Why do people cheat? All relationships change over time and with it changes the dynamics in the relationship.
Gay men that have been together for a long time often find that a relationship that started off as passionate and where sex played a big role, transforms into something more like ‘brothers’ or ‘besties’.
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Some people cheat because they feel unsatisfied or unfulfilled in their current relationship, while others cheat because they have a desire for novelty or excitement.
Some people cheat as a way to cope with personal issues such as low self-esteem, insecurity, or a lack of emotional intimacy in their current relationship.
Additionally, some people cheat due to external factors such as being away from their partner for long periods of time.
Besides the emotional damage of infidelity, it can also significantly impact health.
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If partners have unprotected sex as a couple but one (or both partners) also have high-risk sex with other people, this puts both at risk for HIV and other STIs.
It is very cruel and selfish if one partner has unprotected sex outside the relationship while the other partner is unaware that they are also at risk.
If you have experienced infidelity, it can be difficult to know where to begin to repair the damage.
Many, though deeply hurt from the affair, still want to salvage the relationship.
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Rebuilding trust is a process. It’s important to remember that it is not something that you can demand or force; trust is something that must be earned.
Are you having relationship problems and looking for a relationship counsellor? The Engage Men’s Health Mental Health Support Team offers free in-person counselling for gay, bi or other MSM individuals or couples in Johannesburg. To make an appointment or for more info, WhatsApp call or message 063 649 5116.
Article by Riaan Norval